一丝丝的欢喜

这一丝丝的欢喜不是因为我找到了另一半，是因为想通了，放松了。之前回家了一趟，为了新家装修的事情。和这位Michael (我爸认识的，四十几，也是帮我们装修的) 逛了几个地盘，也听他讲了几个小时。我现在明白做人不要太过critical，不然身边的朋友会听到烦。不过他的话都很有道理。其中，他说了这么一个故事。我的Land Cruiser左和前油黑色，右和后油红色。在一次朋友的约会中，有人说我的车是黑色，另一个人却反驳说是红色。一个说明明看见SSA 1234是黑色，另一个却很肯定SSA 1234是红色。他说，凡事都不要冲动下结论，停一停，等一等，想一想。我自己也想了一个比喻：远处的火车很慢，擦身而过的自行车很快。Everything is about perspective (perhaps including science^^).

几周前人生第一次看演唱会。买了S$118的票，觉得非常值得，因为阿妹的演唱实在太好听了。她除了唱了一首还未发表的日语歌，还唱足了三个小时，差不多唱完了她的经典。隔壁坐了两个女的。她们觉得很奇怪，一直问我“一个人啊？”“没有叫朋友一起来？”，还给了我一个荧光棒。没想到原来演唱会后像个恶梦！SIS的停车场太大了，人群涌涌，我迷失了方向。最终还是安全到家^^（不是坐的士哦！）

过后不久我病了两周。上周到了KL（办家私）和怡保（堂哥结婚）一趟。这一趟意义很大，拉近了亲戚之间的感情。堂姐堂妹们都说林峰很帅，在KTV也点了几首《家好月圆》的歌。只可惜我病后，再也唱不出声，不够气了。可是，我发现他们唱ktv都是合唱，唱低几个key也无所谓，他们只在意其中的欢乐。我自惭无语，也感动了。我的堂姐都像我一样，下巴较长。我发现堂妹堂弟都有唱歌的天份，堂姐的女儿（侄女是吧？）很漂亮。

回到来，四十八小时内”搞定“四十集的《家好月圆》。疯狂吧？其实，这剧的主题是家庭观念，蛮适合现代的年轻人，其中的特色是人物性格塑造非常的仔细。它在香港的收视率蛮高的。我近期少看港剧，我还是会把《大时代》排在经典的第一。《大时代》对演员的个人演技要求比较高，剧本也是一个奇迹。在《家好月圆》里，奸人的诡计很快就被揭发，没有以前罗嘉良的经典奸戏那么令人振愤。《家好月圆》间接让我发现了它上集《溏心风暴》的片尾曲《心领》。我终于又找到了一样让我疯狂的东西^^ 第一个是《溏心风暴》的片断合集，我已经看了N次；第二个则是《家好月圆》的片断合集。两位都算是俊男美女，可是我喜欢是因为他们在荧幕上太”登对“了。自己渐渐觉得对以广东话沟通特别有感觉，比如说，听到 ”哦好挂住妮“，”哦钟意妮“ 会觉得比较lum。







A few days back, I saw this news from Channel NewsAsia:
"On a lighter note, the Minister Mentor touched on what he calls assortative mating, that is, finding a spouse at your level — something he strongly believes in.

He said: "I have explained this. I think I lost votes after I explained the awful truth. Nobody believed it, but slowly it dawned on them, especially the graduates, that yes, you marry a non—graduate, then you worry about whether or not your son or daughter is going to make it to the university."

I am going to tell what I personally think is the best for my own children in the future. I suppose my opinion will not evoke any issue of suspicion of defamation related to the news above, since nobody is going to care what I said about myself. I believe it's important to help one's children to find their dreams when they are young. If they have a dream, they will find the way. When they are lost in their ways, for example addicted to drugs, it is possible to guide them back on track if they have their dreams unfulfilled, if they have strong faith in it; be it the dream to become a baker, a dancer, a novelist, a photographer, etc. If they are determined to become a doctor, they know they have to work hard, they HAVE TO get to the university. Besides, family values is also important and they should understand to be 脚踏实地，and don't linger too much on fast track to wealth (just take a look at the current financial crisis).

I am going to tell two stories. My mom's highest educational level is primary six; my dad worked in the States (switching between restaurants) when I was young and I could only see him once in two to three years. That's why I don't fear loneliness, it's in the blood (of my mom). Although luck played a part for me to get through, everyone has his/her fair share of luck at different point of his/her life. The second story is: I once got squeezed in the sardine-packed Bus 179. There was this guy (obviously a university student, who might become manager of a big corporate in the future) blocking the way to the back of the bus. After a long time, he moved a bit because he was accidentally pushed by someone. But then, he blocked the stair-way to the upper deck of the bus. There were so many people coming down from there and alighting the bus. Yet, he did not have the slightest idea to move away, and let people to go up, at least for me because it's really sardine-packing at the front. I believe it's not necessary for me to explain further.

Selective breeding is truly a sound scientific method in genetics. But the offspring are isolated from the same species in the wild. On a lighter note, I am not sure if the idea is sound in the sociology context. Another fact is that, many locals did not go to the university (but many have at least graduated from the Polytechnics). Is it because the local universities are still under expansion to accommodate more people? If so, I believe most people would have the chance to enter university in the future.